This is how I went from Total Slob to Clutter-Free Queen

If you were to ask my mom what my room was like when I was younger, she would laugh and describe a pathless floor covered in clothes and crafty things abound.

I can’t tell you how many times I was threatened with a garbage bag: “Faith Holly (note the middle name usage), if you don’t clean your room right now, I’m going in there with a garbage bag and you’ll never see that stuff again.”

Now, you would think that would be an effective threat to a kid with a love for the mounds of stuff that I constantly drowned myself in, but here I sit knowing that I never took it to heart. Continue reading

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The Truth About What Happens When You Become a Minimalist

It’s funny to me how this happened. I remember hanging out at a bar, talking to my new friend Phil and learning about minimalism for the very first time. He talked about how much it changed his life, how little he owned now, and this new-found freedom he felt.

Well, here I am about six months later… I caught the bug.

Diagnosis: Minimalist in Training

I have significantly decreased my belongings to about 25% of what I used to own (yes, literally). And. you know what? I have to say, minimalism has made my life a lot less enjoyable in a lot of ways.

It was a few weeks ago that I stumbled on Erin’s post on A Welder’s Wife that talked about some of the same feelings that I have had and am currently processing: 10 Ways Minimalism Ruined My Life Forever. Here are some of my own takeaways… Continue reading

Life Update: Why Less Really is More

This post is a bit different than my others and is going to set the stage for my posts moving forward. No more gimmicky stuff. I really just want to share with you what’s going on in my life, what’s working for me, what’s not working for me, and everything that I am using to fuel the positive changes in my world.

You may or may not have noticed that I’ve been on a bit of a writing hiatus throughout the month of February and I want to give you some background into what I’ve been doing and how I found myself there.whylessreallyismore

As you know, my word for 2018 is FOCUS.

So, in true New Year’s resolutioner fashion, I began to drastically change my life — I made the decision to focus my life and I was going to do it. I made the decision to focus the things that I surround myself with and made the decision to choose what I wanted to focus my time on. So, I began to minimize.

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Five Ways I am Focusing 2018

As I approach the new year, I am doing something different.  I am using 2018 to hone in on what I want out of life, what I want to see from myself, my surroundings, and my relationships. With all the reading I have been doing, all the content about mantras and mindfulness, I have made the decision to identify my word for 2018:

FOCUS

For those of you who know me, you may be laughing right now. As someone who has been diagnosed with ADHD, my life’s word may just need to be focus…hah! But, all joking aside, this word and what it represents for me is so much more than just making sure I am paying attention when someone is talking to me (yes, active listening…)

Here are the Five Ways I am Focusing 2018:

1. I am taking control of my addiction to stuff. 

This year, I want to focus on what I like and don’t like and what I am keeping around just because “I have to”. Today, for example, I went through my earring box (DIY Hack: it’s a tackle box organizer) and effectively went from 50 sets of earrings (real life) down to 20 sets of earrings (still don’t know how I can wear that many, but it’s a start). How someone could ever need 10 different size/shapes of plain round metal studs is beyond me. I’m now down to TWO sets of plain round metal studs. The number of Goodwill trips that I have made within the past month (see Getting the Jump on 2018 for why I started early) is exorbitant and as I pair down my life I am grateful to contribute to their mission. Let’s ditch some stuff. 

2. I am shaping my world to reflect what I seek to manifest within. 

When I moved into my apartment last summer, my main goal was homey AF. My house growing up was always full of knick-knacks, furniture to fill all the spaces, and  totally covered walls. Thus, I have a seemingly innate need to fill every nook and cranny. It’s time for a change. It’s time for me to bring order to my world, to use my environment as a vessel of accomplishment and not that of overwhelming demise. My apartment felt heavy – time to lighten up. Over the past month, I have gotten rid of: two tall bookcases, a couch (I still have another), an over-sized coffee table, a dresser (I still have, you guessed it, another), and numerous pieces of art and mirrors I have since out grown. I now have a smaller coffee table in my living room and a smaller chair next to my couch. Oh, the room for activities! To increase the use of my farm desk (and by that I mean: to actually use my farm desk), I moved it out of my bedroom and into my living room next to my sliding glass door. My bedroom now serves as my sanctuary of sleepy time and my desk is now flooded with daylight for maximum productivity. Let’s get sh*t done.

3. I am going to have fun being active!

Something that I struggled with this past year was finding a workout regimen and sticking to it. I. Just. Can’t. So, instead of creating imaginary goals for myself that revolve around what the cool kids are doing on Instagram (crossfit, powerlifting…), I am going to create and follow workouts that actually align with my fitness goals (and are possible in the gym I workout at!) What are they? Look and feel fabulous while having fun doing it! There aren’t any competitions with anyone but myself and I am all about mirror motivation. So, here’s to dropping my weight a bit and upping my reps, because I want a bodybuilder bod. And, working in more super sets because I love getting sweaty and pushing myself every time I step in the gym. Let’s get ripped!

4. I am investing in healthy relationships

For some time, I have had some walls. This year, the healthier, shinier version of myself will invest in healthy relationships. I am going to dedicate myself to developing rewarding and long-lasting connections. The kind of relationships that don’t go up in a firey blaze and go out in the blink of an eye. I’m looking for those good simmer on the stove relationships that just get better with time. In 2017, I have made decisions for myself based on what I want from my relationships and have made some not so easy choices, but I know moving forward that I will thank myself for taking the hard road. Because, I’m worth the time and effort. Let’s love our self and others!

5. I am giving RLI the ultimate makeover.

This year I am going to take RLI to the next level. I am honing the focus of my content and making my site reader and, ultimately, SEO friendly. I am committed to consistently publishing content and getting my email list up and running. By the end of this year, I will have finished my first eBook and made it available to my following. If you’re reading this, you can expect big things from me and I want to take you with me. 🙂 Let’s crush 2018!!!!

Do you have a word for 2018? How are you going to focus your new year? Leave me a comment! I love to talk goals and how we can reach them together. 🙂

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Life’s Little Breaks: Getting Back on Track

The Holidays. Oh-so-loved by all for the rib stickin’ good food, hilarious times, and much-needed vacation that comes with them. There is really nothing like getting to spend quality time with fresh-baked pie, your loved ones, and (hopefully) yourself as you take in not having to go back to work until the New Year. But, now it’s over. Continue reading

30 Day Challenge: Day 20 No Makeup

At this point in my journey, I feel like I’ve positioned myself between a rock and a hard place. I’m 20 days in and once I hit day 30, I’m not sure where I’m going to go from here. This whole entire experience has not been at all been what I expected and here’s why…

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Getting the Jump on 2018: Finishing Well

My mom and I were all snuggled up on my couch, full from downing some of my homemade chili, and taking a break from beginning the transformation from my everyday apartment to Christmas Wonderland. After browsing through what felt like hundred of curtains for her living room, the phrase “finishing well” came up in our conversation. The connection didn’t hit me until later that night when a Three Bullet Sunday email from David Bach came to mind. He took the time to share with his readers the importance of finishing 2017 well to jump-start the success of 2018.

Why is ending 2017 on a good note so important for the success of 2018? Continue reading

30 Day Challenge: Day 10 No Makeup

I am a third of the way through my makeup-free challenge! So, how’s it going? Well, I’ll start by saying that I came into this with a lot of skepticism. After wearing makeup almost every single day for the past five years, it was hard for me to initially go from what I thought was “fab” to “drab”.

How have I been coping? Let’s just say that Continue reading

Girls Who Lift: No, You’re Not Going to Look Like Mr. Olympia

This weekend I had a fun time sitting in a coffee shop listening to yet another person bash girls who lift weights. He dissed how awful it was to see women who were strong and muscular. Women lifting heavy weights and owning the weight room. It is important for me to share with you why I started lifting, the different lifting programs that you can follow, and the benefits of lifting that I have learned along my journey to Swolehalla. Why I became a Swole SisterContinue reading

My 180: Sometimes Quitting is the Answer

A few years ago I was in a completely different place. I was working towards finishing my degree in psychology at the University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee and heading towards a future with more school with a side of school and a dash of, you guessed it, school. I was on track to pursuing my PhD in Counseling Psychology and looking towards a life of research, students, and academic writing. It wasn’t until I finished my undergraduate degree, started my first semester of graduate school, and decided to quit that I truly felt like I was making a decision for me.

Making the choice to quit graduate school was one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made. I was essentially derailing any life plan that I had devised for myself up until that point and I put myself in a place where I had no idea where I was going. Continue reading