When having it all isn’t good enough

“How are you?”

“Fine. How are you?”

The last time you heard that from someone, did you believe them?

The last time you said that to someone, did you believe yourself?

The Lie

I can take on more. I don’t need more sleep. My health is fine. My diet is fine. My relationships are fine. My finances are fine. My future is fine. Everything in my life is fine.

We value honesty so much in others, but we never seem to honor it within ourselves.

When did fine become our measure of happiness?

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Networking: Faking it doesn’t cut it

Today, I had a networking breakthrough.

No, I didn’t come up with it on my own.

What is it?

Genuine Authenticity

At this point you may be giving me the slanty eye or rolling your eyes or about to stop reading all together, but, I tell you, it is the secret. Over the past eight months (woah, it’s already August…) I have been focusing (oh hey, word of 2018: FOCUS) on developing relationships with people.

I have been focusing on investing my time in relationships that will not only better me, but also move me forward.

That’s networking.

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I’ve been avoiding you (and by you, I mean me)

Yes, that’s right. I have been coasting around you trying to make sure that you don’t notice that I haven’t been around. I’m talking to you over there who has been vying for my attention, hoping that I just finally come around and give you the time of day.

I know that you need me to give you my attention, to nurture our relationship, but I’ve just been so over you. I’ve been too tired. Too overworked. I’ve been going a million miles an hour and just don’t feel like actually giving you the time of day. Yes, I’m talking to you.

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How you lost $1000 without even realizing it

Money and I haven’t always been on the same page. Like most 20-somethings, I have had to do a lot of research, reading, and listening to learn about my relationship with money. Like most 20-somethings, I have started with a practically blank slate when it comes to budgeting, saving, investing, and planning for retirement. Non-loaded mutual fund, dividends, Roth IRA… uhm, excuse me?

I can’t tell you how many times I have put myself in a bad money moment. Recently, I decided to take an amazing, unforgettable trip to Las Vegas and put it on the card. Granted, I immediately paid the statement balance from the trip (interest free), but that is absolutely not how I should have handled that situation.

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This is how I went from Total Slob to Clutter-Free Queen

If you were to ask my mom what my room was like when I was younger, she would laugh and describe a pathless floor covered in clothes and crafty things abound.

I can’t tell you how many times I was threatened with a garbage bag: “Faith Holly (note the middle name usage), if you don’t clean your room right now, I’m going in there with a garbage bag and you’ll never see that stuff again.”

Now, you would think that would be an effective threat to a kid with a love for the mounds of stuff that I constantly drowned myself in, but here I sit knowing that I never took it to heart. Continue reading

These are all of the Epic Books I am Reading Right Now…ish

Episode 1: You Can Have it All

For most of my life, I was under the impression that I could only read one book at a time.

It was a constant internal battle of commitment. I love books so much!

Every time I found a new book that tickled my fancy, I just had to read it. So, in this dire situation, I had no idea how to control my textual addiction…I also had no idea that my commitment to commitment was actually resulting in complete and utter non-commitment. I’m pretty sure I went through a five-year streak where I averaged one book a year (and one of those years included a three-part trilogy…)

After years of struggling with one book to the next, this huge book nerd is here to tell you one of the most important things that I have learned along my paged journey: Continue reading

The Truth About What Happens When You Become a Minimalist

It’s funny to me how this happened. I remember hanging out at a bar, talking to my new friend Phil and learning about minimalism for the very first time. He talked about how much it changed his life, how little he owned now, and this new-found freedom he felt.

Well, here I am about six months later… I caught the bug.

Diagnosis: Minimalist in Training

I have significantly decreased my belongings to about 25% of what I used to own (yes, literally). And. you know what? I have to say, minimalism has made my life a lot less enjoyable in a lot of ways.

It was a few weeks ago that I stumbled on Erin’s post on A Welder’s Wife that talked about some of the same feelings that I have had and am currently processing: 10 Ways Minimalism Ruined My Life Forever. Here are some of my own takeaways… Continue reading

How Minimalism has made Me More Grateful

As you know, for the past few months I have been going H.A.M. simplifying my life. From downsizing my closet, to stripping down my kitchen, to limiting myself to one everyday purse (yes, that’s a thing) — I have been embodying the minimalist movement in my life.

I had no idea the impact that this journey would have on my psyche and how I interpret the world.

How minimalism has affected my attitude towards my home

Since I have significantly decreased my possessions, I have a new-found appreciation for the environment I have cultivated for myself. As I look around my apartment, I see the things that I have kept for myself that fit my cozy minimalist criteria: Continue reading

Life Update: Why Less Really is More

This post is a bit different than my others and is going to set the stage for my posts moving forward. No more gimmicky stuff. I really just want to share with you what’s going on in my life, what’s working for me, what’s not working for me, and everything that I am using to fuel the positive changes in my world.

You may or may not have noticed that I’ve been on a bit of a writing hiatus throughout the month of February and I want to give you some background into what I’ve been doing and how I found myself there.whylessreallyismore

As you know, my word for 2018 is FOCUS.

So, in true New Year’s resolutioner fashion, I began to drastically change my life — I made the decision to focus my life and I was going to do it. I made the decision to focus the things that I surround myself with and made the decision to choose what I wanted to focus my time on. So, I began to minimize.

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Your “It will get better.” Mentality: It’s not Working

I think we’ve all been there one way or another. We find ourselves in a situation that’s stuck. But, despite spending each day in a loop of stagnation and realizing that it is just that, we think “it will get better“.

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I used to be one of those people. I used to be the person that, even though all signs pointed to not going anywhere, still believed that there was something bright and shiny on the other side. No matter how hurt or torn down or trapped by the situation I was, I always found myself looking at the (usually pretty short) list of pro’s versus the (usually very long) list of con’s. A “glass a quarter full” kind of girl.

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